There are a number of subjects that seem taboo to discuss or that as a man, or you feel you should already know and are too embarrassed to ask about when you don’t know. One of those that keeps many men in the dark is what we are allowed to shave, what we aren’t, how often, and how should it look? We will discuss this right now to alleviate your anxieties about this and so we can have a properly groomed gender.
Let’s start with the basics and move into the complex areas…
Face – We all know we can shave this, however, keep these guidelines in mind.
If you are going for the clean-cut look with no beard, mustache or sideburns, it’s appropriate to shave your face once the five-o-clock shadow is roughly 4 mm long. If you work in an office building and have a clean-cut appearance, you should keep it clean-cut and shave every, or at least, every other day. People question your grooming habits otherwise, unless you groom your shadow so it looks sexy. Weekends, you can let it go if you aren’t doing much. When going on a date, or a night on the town, make sure you are freshly shaven. One or two day’s growth can irritate a woman’s skin if you have any level of physical contact. Even a quick goodnight kiss.
If you have any type of purposeful facial hair (none are criticized here) please do every human being a favor, keep it well groomed (it is not hanging off your face in any way, and make sure there are never any crumbs in it after eating. We’ve all sat through those encounters with guys who have crumbs in their beards and nothing turns the stomach more.
Head – For men who are balding and do not want to get transplants or a hair piece, please shave your head. Comb-overs don’t look as good as you think, and the appearance of a shaved head is neat and clean. If your head has a funny shape to it for whatever reason, look into hair piece options and transplants. Some are very affordable and look so real no one would ever know. Check out http://www.hollywoodlace.com for more details about affordable hair pieces. A blog about hair loss will be coming at some point as this is a sensitive subject that needs a whole entry to cover and comfort balding men. If you are blessed with a full head of hair, you should be cutting your hair roughly once a month depending on your hairstyle. Please make sure it looks tidy at all times, even if you have long hair past your shoulder blades. No knots or ratty appearance, and in a ponytail that lays low on your neck when in a work environment, playing sports, or at the gym.
Eyebrows – If you have a unibrow, you are required to divide it into two eyebrows. Don’t shave: use a tweezer and pluck. It grows less quickly and sometimes accidents happen when using your blade and suddenly you have half an eyebrow on one side and we all frown upon that. As this is sometimes tricky, there are places you can go to get them waxed. When doing so, make sure they don’t talk you into sculpting your eyebrows into unbelievable shapes so you end up looking like some sort of ancient Egyptian Pharaoh. You just need two eyebrows. If you have two eyebrows and you’ve got random hairs that live outside eyebrow city, you need to pluck them out.
Back – If you look like a primate, get your back waxed. Regardless if people see your back or not. Someone at some point will. Whether it’s a hot day and you are at the park, you are in a locker room at the gym, or at a public pool or beach. You may not think anyone cares. We all care. Even your spouse cares when they say they don’t. If you wax your back, I guarantee, they aren’t going to complain.
Armpits – Shaving this looks weird unless you are a swimmer by profession (not just for leisure sake) or have some sort of medical reason. If you have really long armpit hair (take notice of other men or see if you can put it in a ponytail) then trim your armpit hair to a reasonable length where it lays closer to the skin.
Chest – There is much debate to this area. A clean shaven chest is now very acceptable for men especially thanks to body building magazines and movies. Women appreciate this more as well. If you aren’t into shaving your chest, you aren’t an outcast by any means, but please keep your chest somewhat groomed so you can actually see the skin. No need for a carpet chest, especially if you have dark body hair.
Penis area – Do not shave off anything here, but keep everything neat and trimmed. Be VERY careful when handling scissors around your penis, particularly around the scrotum. Thin out all pubic hair for two reasons: if you are shaving your chest and have a very full pubic area, it looks odd. We’ve seen that in the locker room at the gym. The other benefit of trimming this down is for breathability. As clothes get more fitted and underwear is sometimes constricting, moisture from sweat in your groin area can cause all sorts of rashes or irritations of the skin and it’s becoming more relevant to groom below the belt for this reason.
Arms and legs – No need to shave these. Reverting back to our fellow gentlemen who are still close to their primate ancestors, please trim appropriately, but do not shave completely. If you are a professional swimmer, or a professional cyclist, it’s okay to wax your arms and legs. Fingers and toes should be trimmed if you have excessively long hair on either of them.
These are the guidelines and should be applied accordingly. If you have very little body hair, there’s no need to worry about proper grooming, no one thinks your odd anymore. Body hair isn’t a sign of manliness or that you don’t have enough testosterone. We can all look more groomed which will probably evolve over time. The above represents current trends.